So It Goes

As some of you may know, my brother, Jeff Rieves, was diagnosed with advanced metastatic melanoma a couple of months ago. Earlier this year, we began realizing something was up due to some uncharacteristic behavior and when he finally got checked out, doctors found multiple tumors throughout his brain and body. There was treatment indicated …

I Am Not a Sports Fan

It’s the Monday after the Superbowl and I’m dreading it. Why? Because I know that I’ll be peppered with questions like, “Did you see that play last night?” or “Man, ________ is GOAT, isn’t he?” And, I’m going to have dip into my bag of ambiguous responses and say “Oh, man. That was something!”, “You …

50 Rules for Being a Good Man

The internet is filled with rules that men should follow. Unfortunately, many of them are loaded with frivolous and/or misogynistic bullshit. And, generally, these lists seem to focus on being a “real” man, rather than a good one. So, I decided to make up my own. Will following this list will make a good man? …

An American Sonnet of My Own

I haven’t watched a single basketball game since you left me on that Tuesday too many years ago because that was where we would connect when the chasm between us yawned wider than the Grand Canyon and neither of us was willing to reach out to the other one and one bad call would bridge the …

F*ck That Noise

   Well, beloved, conservatives showed us just what they think of women this past Saturday. Despite what should have a damning list of accusations of sexual misconduct, up to and including sexual assault, the Senate voted to confirm Brett Kavanaugh’s appointment to the Supreme Court anyway. I don’t know about you, but right now, I …

Any Port in a Storm

You may or may not know that, after an extensive break (about 35 years), I have returned to school for an English degree. This semester, I’m taking a class in writing poetry. The following prose poem is one of my efforts for that class. I could see her lips move, but the words were buried …

The Tone Police

I think it’s safe to say that, right now, public discourse isn’t at it’s loftiest point in our history. Up until last week, I told myself that things could certainly be worse, saying “Hey, no one’s taken a stick to a colleague on the Senate floor while a compatriot pulled a pistol to keep everyone else …

The Guy’s Guide to Naming Your Junk

Usually essays like this are titled “The Gentleman’s Guide to _________”. While writing such an study would pose an interesting challenge, it’s not realistic. Not only do gentlemen refrain from naming their junk, they would never refer to their wedding tackle like that. In fact, a true gentleman works hard to give the impression that …