That’s a statement you’ll hear a lot from fundamentalist Christians. In fact, it ranks right up there with “Hate the sin, love the sinner” in its use. The only problem is they’re using it wrong, because there’s not a lot of love in some Christian’s speech when it comes to the LGBT community. I’m on my soapbox this time because of Kirk Cameron. I’m trying to figure our how the guy who played a lazy-ass teen-ager on a second-rate 80’s sitcom has become one of the go-t0 people on LGBT issues for fundamentalists. Nevertheless, he is and recently he spouted off about speaking the “truth in love”.
You see, not long ago, Kirk was CNN’s Piers Morgan Tonight and said that the Bible defined marriage as being between one man and woman for life, that homosexuality is unnatural, detrimental and destructive to the “foundations of civilization”. Then, when LGBT advocates called him out for his remarks, he claimed they were trying to “crucify” him because he’d “blasphemed the God of Political Correctness.” He went on to say that Christians shouldn’t wuss out when confronted with questions about how they believe but should speak the “truth in love”. Okay, Kirk, where’s the love in what you said?
Let’s take a minute and look at the passage of scripture that’s causing all this,Ephesians 4:15:
“Instead, by speaking the truth with love, let’s grow in every way into Christ,”
This is another example of proof texting (using isolated quotations from a document to establish a proposition), which allows fundamentalists justify some of the ugly things they say about LGBT folks. But, when you look at this passage in context, you’ll find something entirely different:
“11 He gave some apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers. 12 His purpose was to equip God’s people for the work of serving and building up the body of Christ 13 until we all reach the unity of faith and knowledge of God’s Son. God’s goal is for us to become mature adults—to be fully grown, measured by the standard of the fullness of Christ. 14 As a result, we aren’t supposed to be infants any longer who can be tossed and blown around by every wind that comes from teaching with deceitful scheming and the tricks people play to deliberately mislead others. 15 Instead, by speaking the truth with love, let’s grow in every way into Christ, 16 who is the head. The whole body grows from him, as it is joined and held together by all the supporting ligaments. The body makes itself grow in that it builds itself up with love as each one does their part.”
Chapter 4 of Ephesians was written to promote unity within the church and my interpretation of the phrase “speaking the truth in love” is, basically, don’t be a dick to your brothers and sisters. In my book, proof-texting passages of scripture to bash others and then doing it again to justify your actions is pretty damn dickish. So, don’t tell LGBT people they’re engaging in unnatural, detrimental and destructive practices. And, if you do, don’t try to hide behind love because there’s nothing of love in what you’ve said.