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No Homosexual Lifestyle???

In August of last year, the darling of the progressive Christian world, John Pavlovitz, wrote a post titled Repeat After Me: “There is No Such Thing as a “Homosexual Lifestyle.”  What?!? No homosexual lifestyle? I find that hard to believe. I mean, if there’s no “homosexual lifestyle”, that means I’ve been an asshole for absolutely no reason whatsoever. That is a turn of events I just cannot accept.

Look, there are numerous places where the Bible plainly states homosexuality is a sin. Here are a few of those places:

  • In Leviticus 18:22, God told Moses that men shouldn’t lie with men as they do with women because that is an abomination. Of course, a few chapters earlier, God also told Moses that the people shouldn’t eat pork and shrimp. But, I love pork and shrimp, so I ignore that part. Thank you, God, for the miracle of proof-texting!
  • In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Paul said that “homosexuals” won’t “inherit the kingdom of God”. Yes, I know the word “homosexual” doesn’t appear in the Bible until the middle of the 20th century. But, the words that have been rendered as “homosexual” are slang terms and we really don’t know what they mean. But, hey, if we don’t know what Paul meant, what’s wrong with interpreting it in a way that benefits us “normal”, straight folks?
  • In Romans 1:26-28, Paul tells us that men and women gave up natural, God-ordained relations and defiled themselves with icky, same-sex shenanigans and were promptly punished for it. Sure, in the very next chapter, Paul tells us that God condemns the kind of judgement he just threw out, but that doesn’t help my case, so I’m ignoring it.

Seriously, is this man, this “pastor”, trying to tell me that my deeply held religious belief about the homosexuals, based on a Bible verses that have been few proof-texted and cherry-picked within an inch of their life, is wrong? Really?

According to Pavlovitz, “We all have a gender identity and a sexual orientation and these things all fall along a vast and complicated continuum. It is this specific combination of both how we see ourselves and who we are drawn to that form this essential part of who we are.” Oh, come on, “gender identity” and “sexual orientation”? Everyone knows God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. And, Eve was always Eve, not Steve who decided he was Eve. No less an authority than the Southern Baptist Convention backs this up in their resolution “On Transgender Identity”. How could that many Baptists be wrong about something like this?

He also says that the Christians are holding onto “the prejudices and fears our faith inherited 3500 years ago when we didn’t know what we know now” and is “deliberately choosing to not know now; preferring religion to reality”. Well, of course we are. Otherwise we might have to change. And, if there’s one thing we don’t do very well, it’s change.

Look, the bottom line is that accepting homosexuality as innate and not a “lifestyle” is just another step onto the slippery slope that will ultimately lead Christians to live by the teachings of Jesus and start loving our neighbor and turning the other cheek. God only knows where that could lead.

You Can Choose?

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Recently, Joel Osteen has been on a couple of CNN programs (Piers Morgan and Starting Point with Soledad O’Brien) and both times, he’s been asked about his beliefs about same-sex orientation. Both times, Osteen tried to dance around his statement that homosexuality is a sin. Both times, the hosts held his feet to the fire (somewhat) and tried not to let him sugarcoat his views on the subject. If you watch the video, though, you’ll him say something interesting. When former Clinton advisor, Richard Socarides asked “You think you choose to be straight?”, Osteen answered “I know I have not chosen to be straight. I just feel like that’s who I am.”

I find it interesting that, as long as you’re straight, you can’t choose your orientation, yet if you’re gay (or lesbian, bi-sexual, trans or anything other than heterosexual) you’ve made a conscious choice to live an aberrant lifestyle. Of all the LGBT people I know, I have yet to meet one who says they got up one morning and decided to be gay. In every story I’ve heard about this subject, they’ve known from an early age they were different. Most tried to hide it because being different in school is a one-way trip to Bullytown, where’d they spend their school years harassed and beaten up. Some even got married and started families. But, the one consistent thing I hear about this is they felt they were living a lie; that they weren’t being themselves. This suppression of their true self caused all kinds of psychological problems which got better when they quit pretending to be someone they were not. This is why “hate the sin, love the sinner” is so damaging; when you attack someone’s sexuality, you’re attacking an integral part of their personality. One’s sexuality can’t be separated from who they are at their core so, in their eyes, saying you hate the sin is the same as saying you hate them.

Bottom line? One doesn’t choose to be gay anymore than one chooses to be white or have blue eyes. It’s just part of the tangled up mess that is a human being. Sexuality, be it gay or straight, is a gift from God and should be viewed as such. We can argue about scripture or that gay sex doesn’t make babies, but when you see sexuality for what it truly is, all those arguments fall away. But, if that’s not possible, can we at least stop saying LGBT folks have chosen to live a “sinful” lifestyle? All too many straight people really have chosen to live a sinful lifestyle; one in which they ignore the poor, worship wealth and hate God’s children that aren’t just like them. Remember, Jesus said that the ones without sin should throw the first stone. Seeing as how that  precludes all of us, why don’t we try love and acceptance instead?